World Sexual Health Day Celebration!

As this fall season draws near it seems an ideal time to commence with a unique celebration… of sex!

  More specifically, North America’s premiere World Sexual Health Day NYC, September 9th, 2013, at the iconic Cutting Room  in typical New York style, fashionably late, of course! As the organizing chair for this event I am thrilled to invite you to join our effort to broaden social awareness on sexual health for all. We will have an amazing evening full of dance, surprise guests, gifts and more. :: Get your tickets here

This event will be hosted by Millana Snow – Founder of SERENE Social and Winning Model of Project Runway Season 8 ,exciting raffle giveaways, live music, dance performances and enlightening awareness building workshops with inspiring talks led by experts in the field of sexology including Dr. Jane Greer: Sex and relationship expert, therapist, author, radio host and creator of “Shrink Wrap with Dr. Jane Greer”, Esther Perel- author of “Mating In Captivity,” TED speaker and winner of the Vicky Woodhul freedom award and Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh – BBC award winning host and co-author of “The Orgasm Answer guide” sex and relationship expert

Guests will also enjoy performance by J.P. Jofre Hard Tango Chamber Band ,dance by Oceane Hooks-Camillieri, meditation, connections and special giveaways from LELO.

We will be celebrating in typical New York style, September 9th, fashionably late of course!

There a number of discounted and free tickets for students-available on first come-first served. To RSVP please email: Info[at]

This event is a collaborative effort by Connections ABC and Feminine Weapon


Sexual Rights is relative.

This is mainly because one’s rights are considered relative, something that could be subjectively defined…something that one should be given or taken. It is mostly esteemed from the individualistic cultures and doctrine such as the one in Northern America.

It is tightly woven within the sociopolitical system of a society, however, in my opinion Sexual Health could be a matter of objective measurement. Most people share the same body structures, physiology – the medicinal and health aspect – and also moral values which are by large universal. For example, assault, rape and aggressive encounters are frowned upon in all cultures, although they happen/reported more in some cultures more than others,it doesn’t mean that the predator doesn’t know that this is a wrong doing. Therefore I find it most helpful to use the concept of sexual health rather than sexual rights when working with various governments and groups across the world, especially when the general culture is more collective (moral values are highly valued) rather than individualistic (personal rights and freedom are more valued).

I first spoke about this at the Asian Federation of Sexology in Singapore more than ten years ago which then caused a huge reaction from the international organizations and activists but then gradually colleagues who are actually working in the field and with communities started to pick up this ideology and even better, after seeing measurable success they started promoting this idea on their own rights. We still have a long way to go to secure sexual health for all across the world but I am delighted to see that more and more colleagues are thinking about out-come based approaches rather than more emotionally charged and politically driven actions.

Would be interesting to see what you think…share your thoughts with me here.


Are we really familiar with the services available to us?

Knowing the truth is of great value as too many mixed messages and propaganda can confuse people as where to go for help.

Below is what Planned Parenthood actually does, in one chart:

From the Washington Post:

Judging from its unexpected jump into the most-read list, this graph showing the breakdown of care provided by Planned Parenthood’s health centers is proving useful to people. So here it is again, lifted from April. Note the light blue slice, which suggests that cancer screenings account for approximately one-sixth of Planned Parenthood’s activities.
With Planned Parenthood being either the major obstacle to a budget deal or one of the major obstacles to a budget deal, it’s worth taking a minute explaining what they do — and what they don’t do.

As you can see in the chart atop this post, abortion services account for about 3 percent of Planned Parenthood’s activities. That’s less than cancer screening and prevention (16 percent), STD testing for both men and women (35 percent), and contraception (also 35 percent). About 80 percent of Planned Parenthood’s users are over age 20, and 75 percent have incomes below 150 percent of the poverty line. Planned Parenthood itself estimates it prevents more than 620,000 unintended pregnancies each year, and 220,000 abortions. It’s also worth noting that federal law already forbids Planned Parenthood from using the funds it receives from the government for abortions.
So though the fight over Planned Parenthood might be about abortion, Planned Parenthood itself isn’t about abortion. It’s primarily about contraception and reproductive health. And if Planned Parenthood loses funding, what will mainly happen is that cancer screenings and contraception and STD testing will become less available to poorer people. Folks with more money, of course, have many other ways to receive all these services, and tend to get them elsewhere already.
The fight also isn’t about cutting spending. The services Planned Parenthood provides save the federal government a lot of money. It’s somewhat cold to put it in these terms, but taxpayers end up bearing a lot of the expense for unintended pregnancies among people without the means to care for their children. The same goes for preventable cancers and sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV/AIDS. You can find a lot more information about Planned Parenthood and its services here.
Update: More on the methodology behind the chart, which unbundles services from customers. Note that Planned Parenthood served about three million women last year, and of that number, 329,000 received abortions.