Not everyone uses Birth-Control methods…

Despite a variety of birth control options available today, some young women are relying on only the withdrawal method to prevent pregnancy.

New research finds nearly a third of young women in the U.S. rely on only this method.

The withdrawal method, commonly known as “pulling out,” is when a couple ends intercourse before the male ejaculates.

Dr. Annie Dude, of Duke University Medical Center, and her colleagues analyzed responses given by 2,220 participants between the ages of 15 to 24 for a national survey between 2006 and 2008.

Dude, who is also a resident in the department of obstetrics and gynecology, found about one in five women who used the withdrawal method became pregnant at some point.

Women who only use the withdrawal method were also 7.5 percent more likely to have turned to a form of emergency contraception, such as Plan B.

While women who only used withdrawal were found less likely to become pregnant during the time of the study compared to those who use withdrawal along with some other form of contraception, Dude said those findings were not statistically significant.

“Our study showed that use of withdrawal for contraception is very common, but it doesn’t work as well as other methods,” she said.

Dude said health care providers should openly discuss options in terms of birth control and not assume patients are aware of the risks.

“My overall take is that doctors think this is such an antiquated method of birth control that they don’t really think to address it with their patients,” she said.

In terms of effectiveness, Dude recommends the IUD, or intrauterine device, which is both long-lasting and reversible.


Q: Hi. Dr. Sara, I recently had a terrible break up. I don’t think I could ever get into the state of dating/loving someone again. What can I do?

A: I can imagine how you are feeling regarding being scared to fall in love/date again. Loving someone is not easy! It always has its heightened emotions from being very happy and on the top of the world to being really down and depressed. You need to make a choice between being open and going through the process or keeping a life within the range of emotions that you can control and are comfortable with. This is a very personal choice. Give it some time. Don’t rush into anything just now and try not to play various scenarios in your head to see what went wrong, what each of you could have done differently or who needs to be blamed. just let it be for a while and gradually the insights will come to you.


Q: Hi Dr. Sara: Can orgasms cause headaches?

A: Yes. Some men and women suffer from “pre-orgasmic headache,” which is characterized by a dull ache in the head and neck associated with muscle contraction in the jaw muscles that increases with sexual excitement. An “orgasmic headache” has also been described, as a sudden severed headache that occurs at orgasm produced by masturbation or intercourse. Some physicians suggest that orgasmic headaches are similar to headaches after exercise, which are related to a temporary rise in blood pressure, muscle spasms of the neck or dilation of blood vessels.


Meeting Romantic Partners…

As the virtual world continues its technological breech into our everyday lives, the ways in which people work and play have been forever altered.

One clear indication of this is how people meet romantic partners.

According to research by the University of Rochester, online dating has become the second most common way people meet. Connections made through mutual friends remains the top method.

The study’s authors found one-third of people now prefer the online option over all other forms of meeting someone.

“Online dating is definitely a new and much needed twist on relationships,” said Harry Reis, one of the five co-authors and a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester.

Reis said behavioral economics shows the dating market in Western society is severely lacking, especially after singles graduate high school or college.

“The Internet holds great promise for helping adults form healthy and supportive romantic partnerships, and those relationships are one of the best predictors of emotional and physical health,” he said.

The 64-page analysis examined more than 400 psychology studies and public interest surveys. According to the research, 25 million users world wide logged on to online dating sites in April 2011.

The study was commissioned by the Association for Psychological Science and was published in the journal Psychological Science in the Public Interest.


Q: My Desire for Sex Changes with my Cycle…

Hello Dr. Sara:

Q: My desire to have sex changes with my cycle and stress level. How do I make my partner understand this? I don’t want him to feel like I’m not interested in him if I’m not interested in sex.

A: Women’s sexual response is proved to be different than men’s. This means that hormonal as well as environmental and relational factors can affect a woman’s desire for sex, arousal and orgasm more than they do for a man. This is not to say men are better or women are better, this is just a piece of knowledge, worth having.

The key to a successful sexual relationship is to be honest, know what you want, ask for it and appreciate the fact that you received what you asked for. I suggest you have a talk with your partner and explain this to him-preferably before he approaches you for sex and you reject his attempt. Help him to share his thoughts with you too. He might not even be bothered with all of these. You don’t have to take pleasure from sex mutually all the times. Sometimes when you are not in the mood you can help him to satisfy his sexual urges/wants and other times he might be tired or doesn’t want or can’t put effort to have a full on sex, on those times he can help you to experience orgasm via masturbation or the use of sex toys which then means that you are close to one another, the person who desired to be sexual got what they wanted and the person who is not in the mood is not forced to engage in something that he/she doesn’t want to at that moment of time.