Sexuality and Relationship Concerns
“Yesterday I was clever and wanted to change the world, today I am wise and I am changing myself” – Rumi
Congratulations in taking the first step to allow the life that you desire and deserve to emerge. I am honored to join you on this journey. We will talk, think, explore, question, process, and deliberate together until the image of your desired life becomes clear to you and you are equipped with the tools and skills to nurture it for many years to come.
“Lovers won’t finally meet somewhere. There are in each other all along” – Rumi
The quality of the relationships in our lives determines the quality of our lives overall. These relationships include those we have with food, money, children, partners, colleagues, and so on. We know that having a secure and fulfilling bond with another human being can lower our cortisol level and blood pressure, and helps with our overall cognitive abilities and concentration. People who are in such relationships are not only healthier but they are more productive at work and treat others more kindly.
Through our work together, you will confidently connect with the immense source of love within you, also known as self-love or self-compassion. This will ultimately empower you to connect with others at a deeper, more real, and enriching level. This way of thinking and being in the world will guide you towards finding a partner with whom you can share your life. Instead of waiting for love to happen to you, you will help it emerge. I call this Emergent Love. In my upcoming book Love By Design, I offer step by step guide to create the love that you desire and deserve.
“What you seek is seeking you.” – Rumi
My epistemology is very much influenced by the worldviews of Bastami, Rumi, and Attar and my approach is eclectic to meet you where you are. I have worked with hundreds of individuals and couples worldwide, consulted world leaders, government officials, UN NGOs and executives across 41 counters. I will help you put your efforts where matters to manifest the outcome that is most fulfilling for you.
“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?” – Rumi
When someone irritates us, it means that they deregulated our nervous system, commonly known as our gut. Many people assume that the brain thinks and the body follows but, from recent studies in the fields of neurobiology and neurophysiology, we now know the opposite could be true. The body assesses a situation and then sends signals to the brain, advising us to act in a certain way. In the process of our work, we will focus on strategies and tools with which you can equip yourself so that you present in the world with a polished gut, so you are more in control of the input your nervous system receives, and so you have tools to calm yourself in a triggering situation. I explained the concept of a polished gut in an interview with ignite intimacy- listen here.
The primary scope of my work as a thinking partner and relationship consultant falls within the scope of coaching, which is future-oriented with an emphasis on action, accountability and follow through.
What does this mean for you?
- Our consultations are not considered psychotherapy or mental health counseling. Please read this article for more about the different between psychotherapy and coaching.
- If need be, I will make suggestions for your referral to a licensed mental health professional to get the support you need.