Sex & Relationship Private Practice
“Yesterday I was clever and wanted to change the world, today I am wise and I am changing myself” – Rumi
Congratulations in taking the first step to allow the life that you desire and deserve to emerge. I am honored to join you on this journey. We will talk, think, explore, question, process, and deliberate together until the image of your desired life becomes clear to you and you are equipped with the tools and skills to nurture it for many years to come. Below are some principles that will inform our work together.
“Lovers won’t finally meet somewhere. There are in each other all along” – Rumi
The quality of the relationships in our lives determines the quality of our lives overall. These relationships include those we have with food, money, children, partners, colleagues, and so on. We know that having a secure and fulfilling bond with another human being can lower our cortisol level and blood pressure, and helps with our overall cognitive abilities and concentration. People who are in such relationships are not only healthier but they are more productive at work and treat others more kindly.
Through our work together, you will confidently connect with the immense source of love within you, also known as self-love or self-compassion. This will ultimately empower you to connect with others at a deeper, more real, and enriching level. This way of thinking and being in the world will guide you towards finding a partner with whom you can share your life. Instead of waiting for love to happen to you, you will help it emerge. I call this Emergent Love.
“What you seek is seeking you.” – Rumi
I am deeply influenced by Sufism, especially worldviews of Bastami, Rumi, and Attar. My goal for you, regardless of your religion or spiritual orientation, is to hone your intuition and set the right intentions, allowing you to let go so you can attract the connections you desire and deserve.
“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?” – Rumi
When someone irritates us, it means that they deregulated our nervous system, commonly known as our gut. Many people assume the brain thinks and the body follows but, from recent studies in the fields of neurobiology and neurophysiology, we now know the opposite is true. The body assesses a situation and then sends signals to the brain, advising us to act in a certain way. When we perceive a threat, it takes about 20 minutes for our body to calm down so it can once again be responsive to a person or situation rather than reactive. In the process of our work, we will focus on strategies and tools with which you can equip yourself so that you present in the world with a polished gut, so you are more in control of the input your nervous system receives, and so you have tools to calm yourself in a triggering situation. I explained the concept of a polished gut in an interview with ignite intimacy- listen here.
This is the first face-to-face consultation or virtual session that you — individually or together with your partner(s) — will have with me. During this120-minute session, you will describe your concern(s) in detail. I will ask you specific questions and, at the end of the session, we will set realistic goals together and decide what path is the best way forward. Sometimes, this means getting other colleagues and care providers involved (for example, your primary care physician, a physical therapist or another specialist).
If you are a couple, it is highly recommended that you take the Relationship Panoramic battery of tests before your first visit (please keep in mind that the report will take up to 72 hours to be prepared). This will give us a holistic assessment of the areas in your relationship that are strong and the ones that need focused attention.
If there is a need for specific physical accommodation or if you are a public figure needing extra privacy, please let me know beforehand.
Individual and Couples Consultations
Ongoing consultations can be scheduled for up to three months in advance to ensure your preferred times/dates are accommodated. They will be on a weekly basis initially and take 50 minutes each. You can attend the sessions together as a couple or individually, depending on how it suits your program. We will review your progress every six sessions. After you achieve your goals, you will arrange for appointments every other weeks and then once a month or every other month. After that, you can book ad hoc sessions, as you need. Your commitment to the process and the homework you are assigned to determines your level of success. I will follow your pace to ensure that the program fits your lifestyle and other priorities in your everyday life.
The content of the sessions will be kept confidential. There are exceptions to this (such as harming yourself or others), which will be discussed on your first visit. You will be informed before any information is shared with a third party.
I am a social psychologist and an accredited psychosexual therapist by The College of Sex and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) in the United Kingdom and a Certified Sexuality Counselor (CSC) and training provider by the American Association for Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). I serve on various executive and scientific boards across professional and academic organizations. I am not a mental health practitioner and, if needed, I will make suggestions for your referral to a licensed mental health professional in that field. I do not participate in insurance plans.
- Beverly Hills: Every week on Fridays and Saturdays
- Palo Alto: A Friday and Saturday every quarter (i.e. September, December, March and June)
- Online via secure video platform: Flexible hours and year around